a partner

"at the end of the day, you just want someone who understands you,

the one you don't have to pretend with,

and a person you know that you can walk together with in this journey we called

'life to the Hereafter'..

and when that someone feels the same way about you too,

then you know that it is right.."

:)

-N. Asiah Abd Rahman, 2011

uncertainty

if you start to doubt, its never a good sign.

but when u are in doubt, return back to The One who Knows All. only He can help you sort your head out.

"La tahzan.. Innallaha ma'ana.."

crossroads

".. there are only 2 endings for us to choose from.."

someday

.. someone will stop making tears fall down my face.

love. or just the direction to it?

wishing you are near..

hugs from far.

sweet. :)

KELAKARNYA SUAMI AKU NIH....

by Jejupingu Unni

Bila aku teringat balik cerita nih..aku mesti tergelak sorang-sorang…

Alkisahnya…aku nih ditakdirkanlah kawin dengan sorang mamat nih..ntah dari mana la datangnya…mak aku yang suruh..dia kata budak nih baik la alim la pandai la..lepas tu terus kami kawin.

Masa first time kawin tu, memang kucar kacir gak arr rumah tangga kami..dan yang aku paling tak tahan tu dia memang selalu saja buat aku sakit hati…

Eiiiii…geramnya aku!!!

Mana taknya,aku basuh baju dia sekali la ngan baju aku..then lepas basuh..nak jadi cerita..ada lah plak baju dia yang turun warna melekat kat baju aku….haihhh..memang sakit hati…baju baru kot…mahal lagi!!! Then bila aku tanya dia..kenapalah tak bagitau aku yang baju dia ada yang turun warna..dengan slumber dia kata..

”Lah..awat tak tanya…”

Eiii..geramnya aku!!!

Selang beberapa hari, dia ada ajak aku pi shopping.Ok,fine..aku ikut jer la…weekend la katakan. Lepas tu nak jadi cerita, dia punyalah excited nak pi shopping..sampai aku kalih kalih belakang..HILANG!!..

Aku cari gak dekat dekat area situ kot kot ada tapi memang hampeh…Aku try call, tak angkat..call lagi pon tak angkat..huhh..tension betul!! Then, aku amik keputusan tunggu kat kereta jer..seminit,..lepas tu dua minit,… lepas tu….SEJAM KOT!! Huhh..memang sakit hati betul!! Then bila dia mai dekat kereta, aku tanya, pegi mana? kenapa call tak angkat??!! Yang aku tak tahan, dia dengan slumber jawab..

“Lah..gi shopping la sayang…owh..ada call ekk?? Alah..lupa nak bagi tau…terlupa bawa hanset..hehe..”

Eiiii..geramnya aku!!!!

Seminggu lepas tuh..dia kata teringin nak makan masak ayam berempah dengan masak lemak cili api.. ok..fine…aku masak jer…Tapi memang la aku nih tak la pandai masak sangat…tapi bolehlah klu setakat nak makan kan..aku hidang bagi dia makan…Masa first time dia suap kat mulut tuh…Aku bajet dia nak kata apa-apa..Tapi dia diam..Memang tak kata apa-apa pon sampai dia habis makan..Habis makan pon tak kata apa..

Aku pon confius…dia ni no respond..sedap ka tak?? Hmm..klu ikut aku la..orang yang masak ni la kan…aku rasa ok jah lah..tapi tak tau la orang yang makan nak kata apa..huhhh…..

Esok plak, time aku on the way nak balik dari tempat keje, kereta aku plak wat hal..tak boleh start..panik gak arr aku time tuh..malam dah nih..nak masuk Isyak dah…haihh..time aku balik keje lewat2 lah keta nak wat hal..then, aku call dia…

Yang aku tak boleh tahan tu..dia dengan slumber kata..

“Lah awat la call saya…call la mekanik…ingat call saya keta awak bleh jalan??….”

Eiii…geramnya aku!!!

Tapi…dia mai jugak lepas tuh…ada lah dia check apa ntah kt depan bonet tuh…dan lepas start…terus boleh…hmmm..dalam hati…aku kata,

“bleh la jugak mamat nih nak diharap…mekanik kecil-kecilan, janji free”…

Satu hari, dia ada bagitau yang dia kena pi outstation kat overseas. Dia kata pi kejap jah…2 MINGGU!!..hmm..aku memang no komen lah…dia nak pi buat keja dia…takkan nak kata tak boleh kot…keja arkitek…biasalah…busy la kot…

Tapi..memang agak sakit hati jugak lah..bleh dia lesap macam tu jah..lepas2 naik flight....kot2 la nak call bagitau dah sampai ka..ada kat mana ka…tapi memang hampeh!!..langsung dia tak call!! Kot2 la nak bagi emel ka..tapi memang tak dak…kosong inbox!!

Eiii…geramnya aku!!!

Pagi tuh..aku basuh baju…ok..sekarang aku dah taw dah baju mana yang turun warna…aku ambik satu persatu dalam bakul nak basuh..sampai la aku jumpa bungkusan misteri dekat bahagian bawah baju-baju tuh…jeng3..huishh..siap dengan surat lagi..

Suratnya berbunyi begini:

Kehadapan isteriku (cewahhh..),

Semoga berada dalam keadaan yang sihat sentiasa…jangan marah-marah ek..hehe..Saya bukannya apa…saja tulih surat nih..bosan…tak tau nak buat apa…hihi

Pertama sekali…saya nak bagi tau lah..mungkin awak tak kenal saya..tapi saya kenal jer awak…sejak awak darjah 6 lagi kot!! Haha..eh..awak tak ingat ka anak Pak Mail kawan ayah awak yang mai beraya kat umah awak time tuh??!! …Masa tuh..saya nampak awak dok main masak-masak kat belakang umah…hahaha…memang sangat lucu…saya nampak awak macam 'anak patung'..comel sangat…

Ishkk..awak ni..tak berasan ker??

Keduanya, sori la pasal hal shopping tuh..memang saja jer saya tak mau bawa hanset time tuh…hihi..takot terkantoi…yer la…saya pi cari baju awak kot!! Ingat baju yang awak kata terkena warna tuh?? Huh…memang tension..susah btul nak cari..memang patut la mahal dan memang patot la awak bengang satu hari…hihi…

Ketiganya, pasal ayam berempah dengan masak cili api yang awak masak…hmm…mesti awak bengang kan sebab saya no respond…huhu…sebab SEDAPPPP SAAANGAT sampai saya jadi tak terkata…Eh,saya makan dalam masa 5 minit ja kot..ikut jam dinding kat umah kita…

Ishkk..awak ni..tak berasan ker??

Keempatnya…time keta awak rosak…hmm..awak tau tak saya CANCELLLL appointment saya dengan klien penting dari overseas sebab nak pi kat awak??!! Lepas2 tuh..jenuh saya nak pujuk diorang balik…Tau tak saya langgar smua traffic light merah!! Baju saya basah dengan peluh masa saya sampai kat awak??

Ishkk..awak ni..tak berasan ker??

Tapi lepas saya tahu saya kena pi outstation kt overseas..saya lagi seronok…happy glerr..sebab saya tau awak mesti rinduuu kat saya kan..kan2?? Saya memang saja jer tak call awak…hihi…tapi saya ok jah…saya rasa saya dah sampai dah kot lepas awak baca surat nih…

“Wow,look at the Eiffel Tower!! Fuyoo!!! Cantik kot!! “

Hahahahahaaaaaaaa..jangan jeles..(^-^)

Last but not least…awak..awak jangan nakal-nakal ekk…sebab saya saaaaayang awak…

P/S: Try tengok sama x dengan baju awak yang rosak ari tu “bungkusan” nih…hihi

Love,

Suamimu

thank you

a girl in general is like a bottomless container -- nothing can really satisfy them.
if you feed her a scoop of ice cream, she might want a tub.
if you give her a cup of cappuccino, she might want another cup of ice blended mocha.
if you gave her a great evening, she might want ALL of her evening to be great.

yep. we could never be satisfied, and never knew what is enough.

why?
because realistic never hits us.
we live in a fantasy land.
we are mere human -- who just want everything, and syukur, always slips our mind.
(admit it girls. even the strongest of girls have this, too. trust me. i know.)

so with that, i thank you, for knocking some sense into me..
and making me realize why i am trying to be as strong as i can now.



and thank you, for convincing me when i really need to be convinced. and for accepting my flaws. and for putting up with me :)

hello

to make someone feel acknowledge, doesn't take the world.

just a simple HELLO

mr H

i try to tell myself

and it goes out to you as well.

S.H.E

she is my sister.
we used to fight a lot -- though i must say we still do
and we laugh a lot too.
she shared with me many stories -- especially of her love life.
her heart is very sturdy. it had been broken, mended, then broken again.
till one day, a guy in a muscular armor came to the rescue..
and mend her heart like no one ever would.

then they found that they are made for each other -- and realize no love as true as theirs.

and today, theyve promised,
in front of us and everyone else
they'll be true to each other
take care of each other
love each other
till death due them apart.

*photo is yet to follow*

congratulations Mrs Salfarina Nomie MSS
and thank you abang Saperee.
may Allah shower your life with happiness, laughter, and all the goodness in the world.

i love you kakak
do not forget your little sister.

lots of love,
Nadya Summer

random

i found it on a friend's blog. and i think its nice to share, since the theme of my previous posts are of the same.

Doa yang kupanjatkan ketika aku masih gadis:
“Ya Allah berikanlah aku calon suami yang baik,
yang sholeh, yang beriman.
Berikanlah aku suamiyang dapat
kujadikan imam utk keluargaku. amin."

credit to: http://www.isdaryanto.com/doa-imajiner

goodluck to me, and goodluck to you.

to those who is, or going to, practice this, insyaAllah, with the baraqah that comes with Ramadhan, may your prayers be answered, your eyes be opened. amiin.

to all lovebirds..

.. who are going serious in your relationship, planning to get married, getting married, or even married, here's my gift for yous (and myself ;) )

"Ya Allah Ya Tuhan kami,
seandainya telah Kau catatkan dia milikku,
tercipta untukku,
dekatkanlah dia padaku,
satukanlah hatinya dengan hatiku,
titipkanlah kemesraan diantara kami agar kebahagiaan itu abadi,
dan ya Tuhanku yang Maha Pengasih,
seiringkanlah kami dalam melayari ketepian yang sejahtera
seperti mana yang Engkau kehendakkan"

Amin ya Rabbal Alamin

to those who are getting married, congratulations!
straighten your niat; Lillahi Ta'ala - insyaAllah, His blessing will be with yous.

lots of love,

NadyaSummer

i wish..

.. you'll dream a little dream of me

i love you

i just realised, i know how to say "i love you" in 10 different languages:

1. wo ai ni (mandarin)

2. j'taime (french)

3. aishiteru (japanese)

4. te amor (spanish)

5. ich liebe dich (german)

6. i love you (english)

7. saya cinta kamu (malay)

8. mujhe tumse pyar karti (hindustan)

9. sarangeyo (korean)

10. akeu sayang kaau (melanau)

and yes, i found LOVE.

not just the direction to it

:)

thank you, Mr Mraz

"there's no need to complicate our time is short,

this is our fate,

i'm yours.."

did i got stabbed?

fieha once said:

"when someone stab you, that is not the worse part, because it is more like a poke (a sharp poke though, i might add). but when that person twist the knife and pulls it out, that's when it hurts like hell."

and somehow, i think it is a metaphor.. a dark one i must add, to being in love.

when you fall for someone, and that someone falls for you, too, it feels like being stab. but the worse part is when that person is already inside your life, and what ever he/she did while he's/she's in it, is going to hurt you. and when they try to pull out, damn. unbearable.

Dating Deal Breakers: When It's Time to Get Out

*article taken from Shine from Yahoo!, written by StyleCaster with the same title. i really think it is interesting*

As an eligible single woman, it's only natural to be looking for that significant other who will sweep you off your perfectly pedicured, Louboutin-clad feet. You go out with the girls in hopes of catching the eye of your future Prince Charming and securing that fairytale ending, but sometimes dating trials run amuck, leaving you with an experience that you wish you could have skipped out on.

Dating can be fun, but oftentimes we have to weed out the freaks before we find the ones worth our time. Some guys have idiosyncrasies that are just too much to handle, but what are the real red flags that should send you running in the completely opposite direction? Here are some deal breakers that we think warrant an instant end to the relationship. These guys mean trouble:

Cheater
This guy plans dates with multiple girls at a time even when you've been seeing each other for a couple of weeks at minimum. He claims he's keeping his options open, but what that really means is that he has commitment issues and that he's somewhat of a player. This guy definitely is not ready to be in a monogamous relationship, so get out before you get hurt. Keep your eyes peeled for his constant checking of text messages and any smirks that may cross his face while he responds.

The Liar
Like the cheater, this guy won't be straight up with you. He'll ignore certain topics you bring up and will try to immediately change the subject. If he can't look you in the eyes when you ask him what he did that day, then there's a problem. This should send you running in the opposite direction before he ends up lying about something much more serious than his daily routine. Obviously this guy has major skeletons in his closet, and you won't want to stick around long enough to find out what they might be.

The Guy that Needs Anger Management
This guy will seem perfect and charming at first, but the more time you spend with him, the more you'll notice all the little things that make him tick... He'll talk to you about how upset he got over something a normal person would shrug off without a second thought. Once he gets comfortable with you, beware. The snapping will most likely get directed at you. Warning: this guy will probably need to punch something (like a wall) to relieve his anger. So get out, because he's bound to turn into an angry, manipulative, control freak in time.

Inappropriate Commentary
This guy's mom never taught him how to properly respect a woman. He probably views you as an object and worships music artists who make a living out of lyrics that oftentimes degrade women. He's the guy that will talk about your rear end beyond the point of sexiness, or he'll comment about other women's assets in front of you. Not okay. Don't get caught up with this type of guy -- he'll only make you feel bad about yourself in the end, and that's a definite deal-breaker.

The Cheapskate
A cheapskate is cheap. He'll take you to dive bars and pinch pennies even if he's not on a budget. Eventually he'll be asking you to foot the bill or join forces when the check comes. Offering to help out with costly dating expenses is only fair when you're in a serious relationship, but if he requests that you foot the bill on the first date, then politely move on.

Poor Hygiene
Chronic bad breath, disgusting body odor, and poor sartorial choices all fall under the category of poor hygiene, which is just plain gross -- and definitely a deal-breaker. Pass on these guys, unless you have a strange fetish for uber-grungy types. You may think you can persuade him to clean up his act, but we never recommend entering a relationship in which you're already scheming to change your man's ways.

The Tease
This guy is just full of empty promises. He'll have a slew of great ideas that just don't come to pass, leaving you high and dry. Don't let him pull you into his negative ways with zero follow-through. It will only turn you into a pessimist, and who wants to be around one of those?

The Mama's Boy
The definition of a mama's boy is a guy with no shame who still lives at home. He'll probably introduce you to his parents right off the bat and tell you that he's still dependent because he's saving up for his so-called "bright future." In our poor economy, we'll give younger twentysomething dudes a break in this case, but let's face it -- if this guy is almost 30, and still shacking up with mom and dad -- DEAL-BREAKER.

The Guy with Weird Friends
This guy takes a while to introduce you to his friends, but once he does, you automatically know why: they're freaks. This should make you wonder about his true character and whether or not you'd be willing to spend a large chunk of your time with these dudes. We think this is your exit cue.

The Napoleon Syndrome
This is the short man with the big mouth who feels the need to be outspoken in order to make up for his vertical challenge. He'll most likely end up embarrassing himself (and you) when you're out in public because of his need for attention. Plus, we'd never want to date a guy who has serious underlying issues with insecurity. Confidence is the ultimate form of sexiness.

ok, now, reverse everything, and turn it back to a girl. it is applicable to guys, too.

they're just not that into you

i once read somewhere,

MEN ARE NOT COMPLICATED, although they'd like you to think that they are. And there are NO mixed messages.

the truth is, he may just NOT that into you.

how do you know this?

• when he's not asking you out
• when he's too busy to pick up the phone
• doesn't like the words 'relationships' or 'boyfriend'

-from the book, he's just not that into you

but who's to say, this actually doesn't apply to girls as well? and maybe, SHE's just not that into you.

it is pretty interesting, how girls can be so similar to guys, despite we always hear them say what a jerk guys can be. face it girls, we can be JERKS, too. it is just that we are more sensitive to this kind of thing, and have more compassion, compared to the male race.

so no more pointing fingers, as to who wreck a relationship more. 'cause, people, we are all assholes - that is, if we haven't found that right person yet. cause if we do, we wont even dare to hurt them, let alone treat them like piece of trash.

of biscuits and biscotti

aidilfitri is just around the corner, and obviously, every household in malaysia especially, will be busy preparing what nots for the big day. so for my household, it has been weeks of cleaning windows, window panes, grills, gates.. changing the curtains.. you know, the usuals.

as for this week, its biscuits time. mama is a great biscuits baker. she baked the best cookies-biscuits in sibu, i can say. she can, and she did sell them, and it sells like .. goreng pisang(?) but she refuses to continue because she said, she doesnt have enough quality time with her kids. --mama is THE lady.

and with that, i conclude, i will go awol for the whole week, maybe..

stuff still runs through my head, but since im too occupied to even note it down, i just forget.

and thought of the day :

"Wanita-wanita yang keji diperuntukkan bagi laki-laki yang keji. Laki-laki yang keji diperuntukkan bagi wanita yang keji. Dan wanita-wanita yang baik diperuntukkan bagi laki-laki yang baik. Laki-laki yang baik diperuntukkan bagi wanita yang baik”

(QS An-Nuur: 26)